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I converted 40 the other week plus my biological clock is definitely ticking very loudly. I have endured very poor sleeping patterns for the last 10 years and as a result came down using CFS and adrenal exhaustion about Four years ago. I am a little improved upon from then but still not even close to recovered.
I have been thinking about carrying a child, but am concerned whether my body can hadle it.
The principle issue it comes down to for me will be energy. I have plenty of time in my hands in fact too much occasionally. I havent worked for a final 4 years (only 1 day 7 days) because of my sheer fatigue with not sleeping well. (He has a doonar, pillow and difficulties bottle for his puppy who he takes everywhere and also loves to bits i guess the woman is his child). He doesn't care either way about a little one if we Woolrich Eu dont have one, we want to go out there and help spend less endangered wildlife in some way!!
This ultimate concern is that with our energy being so reduced ( ive had a herpes break out every month for the last 3 years that tells me my immunue system is fighting) that having a baby will sap more of the core energy where i am running on and i will feel like a zombie. when i visit shopping malls, the energy of kids running everywhere and shouting tends to make me feel really tired. I dont have any family or good friends in Perth, so there would be minor help around.
Its this there IS definitely a part of us that longs to be a Mummy (and i know id often be a good mum as i learn i have a very loving light nature) but i dont wish it to be at my own healths expense (pray that doesnt sound selfish). But, who knows maybe a baby Is the thing that i need in my life all of which will lift me out of the major depression ive had around feeling a little lost with that anything missing.
I would really love to hear from anyone out there that has had children at a eventually stage in life who has held it's place in a similar situation as my family and their health has suffered as a consequense/or the baby's. Or virtually any that didnt go the children route and if they regret it or not?
I know this is a really personal descision its just that i am terrible when it comes to big decisions and i dont have my mom around anymore to offfer the woman's words of wisdom, thus any advices/words of wisdom could be muchly appreciated.
That's such a private question that I can't really answer. It's not a decision anybody else can really help you with I wouldn't think. There are so many factors for you to weigh into the balance involving whether you should or not. I'd both my children after I had been 35 and they were 7 and 1/2 months apart. I had been pretty fit at the time back then though. In fact some really serious back problems that I have just before children actually got a lot better during my first pregnancy as well as continued to stay better ever since. Maybe that was because I no longer had the time or electrical power to landscape the backyard and brick out the terrace and things like that. : )
It didn't stop me through doing everything that all the mothers who were 20 or 26 were doing. My children did still things as all other little ones. playgroups, sports, dance, music each of the extra things. My youngster was walking by the time your dog was 9 months previous so it didn't stop next 'cause I was pregant with my own daughter by the time he appeared to be 12 months old. I then used a couple of years chasing my youngster to save him from exploitation while carrying my little girl on my hip.
So, indeed, becoming a parent is a steady and life long decision for the parents and it is tiring, besides when they're babies or small children, but tiring in other methods when they are teenagers and still when adults. A mum is always a mum. It sounds as if you have some health issues with your exhaustion and CFS and I hope you're now feeling better than you were. Apologies you're experiencing all of that. Don't feel pressure by the truth you're 40 years old. Some people chose not to ever have children in addition to spend their lives in serving other children who are less fortunate and don't have a household or do other things. It's not an essential part of being a woman to have a baby. I nearly didn't have children but one day i think mother nature smiled on me and stated "Lara, it's time", so I seriously viewed as what I was doing plus and so it began.
If I were you, I'd have a really long engage with your GP about all this and the way your health issues would impact using a pregnancy. I also know that ladies can have healthy pregnancies in the future in their 40's, but for me personally I wouldn't leave it too late except if I had lots of money to hire babysitters (and I wouldn't have desired that at all) or got lots of relatives to be around together with a supportive extended family system. I didn't have either. hahah.
All the best with your health and your current decisions. They're very serious challenges I know and I hope you find some guidance to help you make what is best for your future children if you decide to do that as well as for on your own.
Thanks so much for your reviews. Yes i know it really is a private decision with lots of factors to consider. Instant messaging just seriously torn among wanting to experience being a quiet as everyone says what an amazing experience it is as there are nothing else like it and worried that my health could possibly suffer as a result.
I have been attempting to find people to talk to in the health care industry. I tend to visit naturopaths. Everyones advise is important to me but sometimes until someone has experience chronic sleeplessness for many years where you feel absolutley broken its hard for them to relate. I'll keep searching within myself personally for an answer hopefully one day something/one will help me to make upwards my mind.
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